YOUR SAFETY PLAN
Your safety plan is a personalized plan that best suits your life and situation. They are for you to use to stay safe when in the relationship, when you plan to leave or when you have already left.
Plans vary on whether you are living with the abuser, have children, and even if you have family members near you.
Safety plans are a good way to stay clear headed mid chaos, it's easy to lose sight of the plan and do irrational things in situations. With so much happening it can be hard to think logically and for your own safety. Having a safety plan in advanced is a good way to help yourself in those chaotic situations.
Safety during a violent incident
- Have a pre- determined safety spot with a family member or friend that you can get to and somewhere the abuser cannot access. Practice getting there as quick and safety as possible so in situations, you are ready.
- Have a code word set up with family and friends in cases of emergency.
- Inform your neighbors if they hear any yelling or weird noises to call the police.
- During an argument go to a location in the home where there are easy access exits for you.
- Take pictures of all bruises and marks asap.
- Use your intuition as the situation goes on, try to not escalate the situation. Give your partner what they want/calm him down.
Safety when preparing to leave:
- Start saving up money that they will not know of, leave extra money and any keys with someone you trust.
- Have copies of important document and any papers you will need in the future.
- Increase your independence before you leave, open your own bank account and any other accounts you share with them.
- If your abuser has access to your personal accounts, make sure to change passwords or create backups and verification steps.
- Have people who have confirmed you could stay with them for the time being.
- Change your day to day routine locations, such as your gym, daily coffee spot, common places you eat.
- If possible inform your job of the abuser, if needed consider a work partner for your commute to work.
- Pack an emergency bag. Pack clothing, keys, extra money and any personal needs. Keep the bag in a safe hidden spot.
- Have hidden keys, phone and anything else they might try to break or steal.
Safety in my own residence
- Change the locks on all doors ASAP, if possible lock all windows.
- Install security system and camera’s in and outside of your home. Install motion movement cameras.
- Set up an escape plan from all windows if not on ground floor.
- Have a plan set up on the closest neighbor/friend if you have to leave your home with nothing.
- Inform your neighbors and landlord that you are no longer with your abuser and that if they are seen around, to call the police and inform you.
Items to take
House and car keys
Phone card/safety cell phone
Clothes, personal hygiene.
Children’s toys and/or blankets
Items of special sentimental value
Restraining order/stalking order
Lease, rental agreement
Medical records/Medical card
Health and life insurance cards
Work permits/green card/ VISA
Social security card