If someone you love is being abused, it can be so difficult to know what to do.

Your instinct may be to “SAVE” them from the relationship, unfortunately it is not that easy.

There are many reasons why people stay in abusive relationships, & leaving can be very dangerous for a victim. Abuse is about power & control, therefore the perfect way help someone in an abusive relationship is to empower them to make their own decisions.

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Help a Friend or Family Member:

Are you concerned that someone you care about is experiencing abuse?

WARNING SIGNS

  • Their partner puts them down in front of other people.​

  • They are constantly worried about making their partner angry.

  • They make excuses for their partner’s behavior.

  • Their partner is extremely jealous or possessive.

  • They have unexplained marks or injuries.

  • They’ve stopped spending time with friends and family.

  • They are depressed or anxious.

  • You notice changes in their personality.

ACKNOWLEDGE THAT THEY ARE IN A VERY DIFFICULT & SCARY SITUATION, BE SUPPORTIVE AND LISTEN.

Let them know that the abuse is not their fault. Reassure them that they are not alone and that there is help and support out there. It may be difficult for them to talk about the abuse. Let them know that you are available to help whenever they may need it. What they need most is someone who will believe and listen.

BE NON-JUDGMENTAL.

Respect your friend or family member’s decisions. There are many reasons why victims stay in abusive relationships. They may leave and return to the relationship many times. Do not criticize their decisions or try to guilt them. 

IF THEY END THE RELATIONSHIP, CONTINUE TO BE SUPPORTIVE OF THEM.

Even though the relationship was abusive, your friend or family member may still feel sad and lonely once it is over. They will need time to mourn the loss of the relationship and will especially need your support at that time.

ENCOURAGE THEM TO PARTICIPATE IN ACTIVITIES OUTSIDE OF THE RELATIONSHIP WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILY

Support is critical and the more they feel supported by people who care for them, the easier it will be for them to take the steps necessary to get and stay safe away from their abusive partner. Remember that you can call the hotline to find local support groups and information on staying safe.

Healing & Empowering Women

 (202) 630- 4094 l Info@dchew.org

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